BEING in a world of DOING

Bonjour, bonjour, bonjour! A very looooong overdue hello to y’all.
I gasped a little bit when I looked at when I sent my last email . . . December 2018! Yikes. And then it got me thinking a little.
 
This is good. 
 
This is what I wanted. This is how I intended it to be. This is on point.
I ended last year wanting to listen to my SOUL on a whole new level.
 
Can you relate to wanting to listen to and follow your SOUL more often? 
 
I wanted to start with a clean slate and truly listen to what my inner voice was telling me. And it was telling me things I resisted.
  • It was telling me to spend more time offline.
  • It was telling me to spend less time on social media.
  • It was telling me I didn’t need to try so hard. And that things would come more quickly and easily if I chilled out a bit.
  • It was telling me to let go, forget schedules, and let it be easier.
When I got quiet, I realized that what I really wanted was to BE more and DO less. 
I wanted to feel what it felt like for things to come with less effort and more FAITH.
 
For flow and manifesting to happen more quickly and from a more natural state.
 
So I let go of schedules. I let go of to do lists.
 
I let go in a WAY bigger way. And what I got back was exactly what I wanted—my next level.
 
I won’t share all the details here, but suffice to say there were big surprises. There were things I doubted. There were things that were staring me in the face that I was wrestling with big time.  And there were also massive gifts—more travel, more $$$, more happiness, and a deeper sense of connection.
 
But changing who we are isn’t always easy is it?
 
Changing patterns of thinking, feeling, and doing can be awkward, and just . . .  different. 
 
Of course, it’s different. It’s different because it’s different. It feels odd because it is! It feels challenging because we are fighting with our ego, our habits, and our patterns that want to keep us safe in our little safe, comfort zones. 
 
Not that we can’t be comfortable AND be aligned with our SOUL, but sometimes there will be growing pains. But is the pain we feel from NOT listening to our soul greater than the growing pains we feel from saying YES to our soul?
 
This is the question.
 
This is what you may want to ask yourself when you feel scared, bored, frustrated, nervous, or disconnected.
Is this feeling coming from a place of NOT listening to your truth or is it the brief, passing discomfort we feel when we are facing the ego, that comfort zone and those habits that keep us stuck?
 
Ask yourself if you are choosing to head in the direction of your truth, your soul, your passion, your light, or are you headed in the opposite direction of those things? 
 
And when you have your answer, you have your compass for becoming that incredible human BEING that you are.
xo
Carrie

Mercury Retrogrades & Lions Gates, oh my!

Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.—Dr. Seuss

Congratulations on (almost) making it through this past few months, where we experienced 7 planets in retrograde, a Lions gate portal on August 8th and just nearing the end of Mercury retrograde which ends on the 18th.

GREAT. BIG. SIGH. 

If you don’t know what any of those things are, and want to learn more, here are a couple of links you can check out—

Lions gate portal

7 planets in retrograde summer 2018

So things seemed a bit intense for you lately— now you know why.

For me, the past few months have been deeply transformational. 🔥

I chose to step away from many things I felt I “had” to do so that I could fall back in love with what I truly wanted to do.

Yay. I am back in love again. 

Sometimes, the most important thing you can do for your mental, spiritual and physical health is to remove as much of the “chatter” from life that you can.

The chatter may be the social media feeds you scroll through that don’t add much value to your life and take away time you could be doing something that feeds your soul.

The chatter are the endless to-do lists we tell ourselves we MUST get done, or else. Or else what?  Is it really the end of the world if we don’t get it all done?

It’s all the stuff that you’re doing or focusing on that isn’t moving you towards where you want to be.

WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS, NOT HUMAN DOINGS.

When we catch ourselves back in the place of being a human doing, rather than a human being, we know because of how we FEEL.

We feel frazzled, hurried, snappy, bitchy, cranky, angry, reactive, tired, bored, depressed, and overall shitty.

And what I LOVE so much about these crazy planet occurrences that just happened, is that they provide ample opportunities to get very REAL about where you fall on the continuum of a human being or a human doing.

They turn up the volume on where you are “off’ energetically, so you can’t hide from what’s really going on.

Now obviously, we have to get shit done. Obviously.

But the point is . . . .sometimes we take it to an extreme, and forget to enjoy the moments. We get stuck doing things that drain us and we need to step away for awhile, remove the chatter, the clutter, the unnecessary, so we can remember what it is that we love. 

We aren’t here to be the world’s best do-er’s. NOPE.

Sure, the toilet needs to get scrubbed and someone has to take out the garbage, but this is about the bigger picture things. The things you might think about when you are taking your last breaths. The fun, the joy, the laughs with loved ones, the vacations, the long meals with friends, the quiet moments reading books, the memories that matter.  

And sometimes it’s as simple as a shift in perspective. Sometimes it’s just remembering to remember how special each moment is—that we are here, alive, a miracle of sorts. 

Today, is 8-16-18. There is about another week left in this retrograde period.

Are you ready to fall in love (or serious like) with your life? 💛

To make the most out of the final days of this VERY powerful past few months, I would recommend the following—

1. Get out in nature as much as you can. Connect with the outside world and go barefoot if possible. This will help you get grounded and heighten intuition.

2. Breathe more deeply and more consciously.  Do this always. Most people are super shallow breathers and it disconnects us from our higher knowing.

3. Practice self-care and personal boundaries. Take a bath, get a massage, do something nice for yourself. Watch boundaries with others and ask for space when you need it. Use this time to fall back in love with YOU and with LIFE.

4. Ask for guidance, signs or support from your higher self, God, angels (whatever works for you). And then be OPEN to receiving that guidance.

You can step away from what is no longer serving you. YES. YOU. CAN.

You can remove the chatter. DO IT.

You can let that shit go. 👏

You got this.

Sending so much love.

xo

Carrie

Why we don’t change (even when we really want to).

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.

—Neale Donald Walsch

Who hasn’t wanted to change something in their life? 

Who hasn’t wanted to make more money, lose a little weight, or maybe start eating healthier? 
Most humans, at one point or another, have wanted to change something.
True? Yes, true. 
And the sad and gloomy truth is—most people don’t.
Sorry to be a Debbie Downer.
Most people want to change, try to change and they just . . . . don’t do it. 
While we can all come up with a ga-zillion reasons why we didn’t do THAT THING (that we thought would make us happier, healthier, or wealthier) the main reason we don’t’ change is because  . . . 
IT’S HARD. IT’S UNCOMFORTABLE. IT’S SCARY. IT CAN SUCK A LITTLE. 
And while we all may sit around chit-chatting about how much we want X, Y or Z,  there are about 1-3% of us that will pull through and make those MASSIVE changes and stick with it consistently. 
In a nutshell . . . we don’t change because it’s hard. Yep, just because it’s hard. 
Let’s be real . . . . faced with 2 choices, we almost always take the one that feels easier and safer.   
We almost always choose what we know, even if it’s not the best thing for us. 
We are creatures of habit, even when they are harmful to us. 
Even when those habits can be lethal to us. 
So what’s the trick?
What’s the key to getting into the 1-3% group? 
As cliché as it may sound—thry feel the fear and do it anyway.
They carpe diem the shit out of each day. 
They don’t give up when it’s hard. They get help. 
And they drop the excuses, the justifications and the old stories that keep them in stuck-ville
The super cool thing about it is—it’s only hard for a little while. 
 
Then the things that once felt uncomfortable start feeling less awkward or challenging.  
You start to feel more ALIVE from changing your diet, eating more high vibe foods and saying no to the daily donuts (or 5 cups of joe). 
You feel more comfortable asking for the sale with your clients. 
You don’t want to pee yourself when you say yes to a public speaking event (and follow through with it).
You start to feel more confident speaking your truth. 
You step through what scares you, face it like superwoman (or man), and you do what the other 97% won’t.  
You change. You say yes to your power. You open up new doors to all sorts of magic. 
And then you just keep doing it. Rinse and repeat. 
The main thing to remember when you are seeking change in your life . . .
You have two choices—
1. To hold back and not go after that thing you want to shift, change or try. To keep living in fear. To keep doing things that you know are chipping away at your soul. 
2. Do it. Face it. Conquer it. Choose to say YES to creating new habits. Habits that get you on track to living an incredible, energetically rich and connected life. 
And you don’t have to do it alone. In fact, I would highly advise not doing it alone. 
Get help. Get a coach or mentor. Read the books. Reach out to others who have been where you’re at and made the changes. 
And then welcome yourself to the 3%-ers club! The club for those ready to live life on their terms—a life outside of that boring old box. 
xo
Carrie
Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.

—Neale Donald Walsch

Who hasn’t wanted to change something in their life? 

Who hasn’t wanted to make more money, lose a little weight, or maybe start eating healthier? 
Most humans, at one point or another, have wanted to change something.
True? Yes, true. 
And the sad and gloomy truth is—most people don’t.
Sorry to be a Debbie Downer.
Most people want to change, try to change and they just . . . . don’t do it. 
While we can all come up with a ga-zillion reasons why we didn’t do THAT THING (that we thought would make us happier, healthier, or wealthier) the main reason we don’t’ change is because  . . . 
IT’S HARD. IT’S UNCOMFORTABLE. IT’S SCARY. IT CAN SUCK A LITTLE. 
And while we all may sit around chit-chatting about how much we want X, Y or Z,  there are about 1-3% of us that will pull through and make those MASSIVE changes and stick with it consistently. 
In a nutshell . . . we don’t change because it’s hard. Yep, just because it’s hard. 
Let’s be real . . . . faced with 2 choices, we almost always take the one that feels easier and safer.   
We almost always choose what we know, even if it’s not the best thing for us. 
We are creatures of habit, even when they are harmful to us. 
Even when those habits can be lethal to us. 
So what’s the trick?
What’s the key to getting into the 1-3% group? 
As cliché as it may sound—thry feel the fear and do it anyway.
They carpe diem the shit out of each day. 
They don’t give up when it’s hard. They get help. 
And they drop the excuses, the justifications and the old stories that keep them in stuck-ville
The super cool thing about it is—it’s only hard for a little while. 
 
Then the things that once felt uncomfortable start feeling less awkward or challenging.  
You start to feel more ALIVE from changing your diet, eating more high vibe foods and saying no to the daily donuts (or 5 cups of joe). 
You feel more comfortable asking for the sale with your clients. 
You don’t want to pee yourself when you say yes to a public speaking event (and follow through with it).
You start to feel more confident speaking your truth. 
You step through what scares you, face it like superwoman (or man), and you do what the other 97% won’t.  
You change. You say yes to your power. You open up new doors to all sorts of magic. 
And then you just keep doing it. Rinse and repeat. 
The main thing to remember when you are seeking change in your life . . .
You have two choices—
1. To hold back and not go after that thing you want to shift, change or try. To keep living in fear. To keep doing things that you know are chipping away at your soul. 
2. Do it. Face it. Conquer it. Choose to say YES to creating new habits. Habits that get you on track to living an incredible, energetically rich and connected life. 
And you don’t have to do it alone. In fact, I would highly advise not doing it alone. 
Get help. Get a coach or mentor. Read the books. Reach out to others who have been where you’re at and made the changes. 
And then welcome yourself to the 3%-ers club! The club for those ready to live life on their terms—a life outside of that boring old box. 
xo
Carrie

5 misconceptions about manifesting.

The topic of manifesting has been around for a LONG time.
 
Before authors like Esther Hicks and Wayne Dyer brought the concepts of law of attraction mainstream—these ideas could be found sprinkled throughout the Bible, in Buddhist beliefs and in Ancient Egyptian writings.
 
It’s a topic that has been written and talked about by some of the greatest and most powerful minds of all time—and for good reason.
 

The idea is—that when you line up you energy with what you desire in life and make a conscious effort to consistently keep your energy aligned with those things—they will appear in your life (manifest).

But have you ever asked for something from the universe and it hasn’t magically show up for you?
 
Have you read many of these great books, felt pretty certain you’re doing what you’re supposed to—and things haven’t shown up for you?
 
Law of Attraction (LOA) and manifesting are brilliant tools to help us create a life we love—when they work. But there are several flaws or misconceptions that trip people up when trying to understand and apply manifesting principles.
 
Here are 5 of those misconceptions—
 
1.  It’s simple or easy.  When people hear “Ask and it is given”—they think that all they need to do is ask and it is given.  While this is possible, it’s not the norm (otherwise everyone would win the lottery : ) It’s not just about asking. It’s aboutlining up your energy with what you want—and that isn’t always simple or easy.  If you have a lifetime of negative energy about a topic (say creating wealth)—it may take more than just asking to change those ingrained beliefs. We have to combine a shift in our feelings and beliefs about what we desire with the asking.
 
2. It’s too complicated and requires too much work.  Yes, it can be seen as both oversimplified AND overcomplicated. Most people like the idea of “Ask and it’s given”—because it’s simple. Asking is easy, right? But the truth is—it can get complicated and a little messy when we are trying to rewrite years of messed up programming in our brains. Just as we can get tripped about it being too easy (and give up when it’s not) we can get tripped up on it being too much work. The point is—being aware to not let either excuse hold you back.
 
3. Focus on the future, not the present.  The key to being successful at manifesting is to learn to keep your primary focus on the NOW.  This trips people up because it seems like the very essence of manifesting is to create something that isn’t here yet—which sort of automatically puts us in the future. But it isn’t about feeling better once we get what we want. It’s about placing the focus on the NOW and feeling good NOW. This is what helps us get in the miracle zone with manifesting.
 
4. Thinking it’s about the end result.  We almost always associate manifesting with an end result—I will be happier once I get x,y or z. It’s hard not to because that’s sort of why we are doing in in the first place, right? We are working on changing our energy, so we can get something we don’t have . . . an end result. This isn’t the way to look at it though. The key is to be clear about what you want, yes. But then the key is to keep a steady, excited energy in the present moment. The better you get at feeling good NOW, regardless of what’s showing up in your life—the more a magnet you become for your desires.
 
5. Not enough clear steps and guidance on the “how-to” part of it.Clear, consistent “how-to” steps in regards to manifesting are left out of many of the teachings—or it’s confusing. Simply telling someone to feel good who has been chronically depressed most of their life–won’t help. You need clear guidance and steps and the how-to when you’re dealing with deeply ingrained habits of thinking and feeling.
 
These 5 misconceptions can get in the way of us learning to create what we want in life with manifesting .
 
And sometimes by simply understanding the flaws in something—you can gain more clarity about the strengths.
 
But one thing I want to make SUPER clear is that these “flaws” are really flaws in how we are perceiving manifesting. It’s not that there are flaws in manifesting—there are flaws in how we are relating to and interpreting it.
 
When you get to the point with manifesting where things just seem to effortlessly fall into place—it really is like living in a magical world. But as with most great things in life—there’s a learning curve.
 
It requires a bit of work and persistence.
 
But after awhile, it gets easier.
 
It becomes more habitual.
 
And you trade those feelings, thoughts and beliefs that worked against getting what you want—with the new improved versions.
 
The versions that support your well-being and happiness.
 
And that’s worth the work, in my opinion!
 
xo
Carrie

A faster path to manifesting what you want.

If you haven’t noticed already, the “choice” thing is something I cover quite a bit. 

It’s not just because I wrote a book about it. And It’s not just because I like talking about the same thing over and over again. 

I talk, coach and teach about the power of choice—because it’s the #1 thing that can transform your life with the least amount of effort, struggle or frustration.

Once you learn what exactly to do with the power of choice—manifesting what you want gets a whole lot easier and more enjoyable. 

And the super quickie manifesting 101 lesson is this—manifesting is nothing more than matching your energy (thoughts and feelings) to what you want.

It’s having healthy feelings about money, wealth and prosperity—if you want more prosperity.

It’s about having good feelings and thoughts about your body—if you want a healthy body. 

Getting what you want (manifesting) is nothing more than CHOOSING WHAT TO THINK AND FEEL  and holding that consistently and truthfully. 

Let me ask you a couple questions . . . 

When was the last time someone forced you to feel a certain way?

When was the last time someone forced you to think a certain thought? 

The answer is never!

We may think someone makes us feel and think a certain way—but the 100% truth (and yes, sometimes the truth hurts a little) is that WE are the ones responsible for what we think and how we feel. 

And what we think and feel are choices—that are either moving us closer to more travel, a rockin’ healthy body and our soulmate finding us. Or not. 

So this awareness will either make you 1. Giddy, excited, thrilled to know you have a certain degree of control (although I don’t like that word)  over certain things in your life or 2. Freaked out to know that you have a certain degree of control over how things go in your life. 

When this idea truly sinks in for people and when they truly grasp how much power they have when they become accountable to what they think and how they feel—this is when things get fun. 

It’s when doors open, magic happens and lives are transformed. 

And thats not to say there won’t be ANY uncomfortableness along your path to creating your dreams, desires and goals.  But the whole “no pain, no gain” thing—is not required when you want to shift something in your life.

Sometimes when we are learning to THINK AND FEEL differently about money, health, work (any topic really) —we need to put a bit more effort into replacing beliefs and feelings that DON’T SERVE WHAT WE WANT and replace them with thoughts and feelings that do. 

Simple? YES. Easy? Not always. 

But what I tell my clients who are really determined and ready for a big change is this—

  • you won’t get there unless you’re clear about what you want
  • you won’t get there if you’re wishy-washy with your energy
  • you won’t get there by focusing on what you DON’T want (the key to manifesting is to put the primary focus on what’s wanted, not what’s missing)
  • you definitely won’t get there by staying stuck in your old story about your life, your problems and your “lack of”  (whether is be money, love, health, happiness) In other words, it may be 100% true, real and painful for you to recall and talk about your past and how it impacts your ability to be positive—but that is a story that you are choosing to repeat. The question  is . . . how is it serving you in getting what you want in life? 

If you simply remember and practice these key points—you’ll have the ability to change almost anything you want. 

You can attract more peace with your energy. 

You can attract more love with your energy. 

You can attract more health, wealth and happiness with your energy. 

And yep . . . it’s absolutely your choice. 

xo

Carrie

 

The Problem with Being “Authentic”

Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise.

—Sigmund Freud

I bet if you’re human and breathing—you’ve run across another human that in all their authenticity—triggered you a little. 

Or maybe a lot. 

It’s ok. It doesn’t mean you’re horrible and lack compassion. 

It also doesn’t mean that you’re wrong in feeling like that persons version of  “authentic” would be better if it were, well—LESS authentic.

You hear it over and over again in the self help and personal growth world . . . 

Find your authentic self. Be your authentic self. Know your authentic self.” 

But here is the issue with that—

Some people’s version of “authentic” may not seem very nice and may miss the boat when it comes to being self aware and open to change. And even if people do honestly feel they are being their 100% authentic self—you still may not line up with it. 

And that’s ok too!  You don’t have to agree with everyone—to be evolved or spiritual. 

​​​​​​​You don’t even have to like everyone to be evolved + spiritual (shhh  . . . don’t tell the Dalai Lama)

​​​​​​​In fact, it’s more spiritual to be honest about NOT feeling super jazzed about someone, than it is to pretend otherwise. 

Because often in our acceptance of those feelings that don’t feel so evolved—is where the magic and growth take place. 

On top of that—is the idea that what you resist persists. In other words, if you are truly bothered by something but pretending you aren’t bothered by it—it’s not going to go away, because you are “feeling stuffing” which is basically resistance. 

And resistance, feeling stuffing and pretending you don’t feel something, that you do—is not an energy of allowing and attracting. 

This matters because how we truly feel about things—is our vibration. And our vibration is what determines what flows back into our lives.  

And you can’t change it, heal it or fix it if you aren’t being honest about it.  

Many people think they are being authentic, when they really aren’t fully connected to how they feel about something and ultimately, to their vibration about it. 

So what does it mean to be authentic in a conscious way? A way that isn’t self righteous, evasive or fake?

It means—

  • owning your shit
  • saying what you really mean
  • standing up for what you really want
  • being accountable (a nicer way of saying “owning your shit”)
  • being committed to your growth
  • being ok with making mistakes, but learning form them rather than repeating them for decades and then passing that energy on to your kids
  • letting go of a need to be right
  • being of service to brining more light and love to the world (I know, this is the super woo-woo one, but hey—I go there and that’s just me being authentically me 😉
  • being conscious and self-aware

If a more “true” and less self-helpy meaning of authenticity is being an example of goodness, of light, of forgiveness and truth—then that’s a keeper.  

But if it simply gets reduced to another woo-woo term that causes frustration or annoyance—then by all means—it’s time to drop it and move on. 

The main point is to not let the word, teaching or concept get in the way of the main intention and goal. 

And isn’t our ultimate goal simply to enjoy our lives? To laugh more, play more, travel more, love more, feel healthy, frisky and ALIVE? 

Yes!  Truthfully, authentically—YES! 

Big Blessings,

Carrie