There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.


I’ve stared at this screen at least five times in the last few weeks or so . . . . just feeling sort of blank.  Not like me—at all. 

And then I got to thinking about it . . . 

Sometimes you just have to start.

Even though you may not feel a massive influx of creative energy or motivation to get going on something—sometimes you have to just start. 

Why? Because there are times when NOT starting and not following through with something can be a subtle form of self-sabotage. You may be able to come up with all sorts of very VALID reasons and excuses why you can’t start like—
  • I’m not in my creative zone.
  • I don’t have time.
  • It’s not good enough.
  • I shouldn’t do it if it doesn’t feel good (faulty self-help belief. See my article on this here).
  • Meh. I just don’t want to. So . . . eff it, I’m not going to do it (similar to the not wanting to do it because it doesn’t feel good, but more rebellious in nature. If you want a super interesting read about our personality tendencies read Gretchen Rubins book Better than Before, take her quiz and let me know what you are!).
  • I don’t know how, so I just won’t try.
And of course, there are those times when you don’t start things because they simply aren’t a fit. 

How can you tell the difference?  

You tell the difference by getting dialed in about how you feel. You journal about it, you slow down and get centered and then you ask. 

If you think it’s something you want, but are starting to notice a pattern of excuses why you can’t—then it’s probably a form of avoidance that’s holding you back.  

But what if it IS about not having enough time?

It’s seldom ONLY about time. If something matters—you can find the time. If you are interested in a unique take on the concept of time, I would highly recommend reading Gary Zukavs book The Big Leap and diving into the section on Einstein time vs. Newtonian time. Life changer. 

If you feel a gentle (or not so gentle) nudge or voice telling you to do that thing, start that book, eat healthier food, clean out your office, have that difficult conversation, take that trip—just start. 

Maybe starting is committing to writing 15 minutes a day when you wake up. Even if it’s just scribble—

Just write.  

And then you see what happens.

Maybe it’s looking on Airbnb at places to stay in a country you want to visit. My guilty pleasure is chateau hunting in France on Airbnb (here is a chateau for our France retreat this June/July).  

Just dream. 

Maybe it’s clearing the energy in your home by doing a deep clean, instead of watching TV every night.  

Just clear. 

It’s just starting.  And then it’s getting in the habit of discerning your true desires from distracting busy work and distracting time-sucking activities. 

One of my favorite quotes is—”If not now, then when?”

This is especially poignant to me now, just finding out that my biological father passed away last week. We never met in person, but I really would have liked to. 

So there’s a little heaviness in my energy and a sense of something being unfinished. And a new depth to the quote. . . “if not now, then when?”

If we don’t choose to go after things that matter—like they truly do matter—then in a moment, they can slip away. 

I’ll never be able to meet my biological dad in person, but I can use this experience to live my life more fully each day. 

To just start those things I know my soul is leading me towards. Even if it scares me. Even if I feel I don’t have time. Even if I don’t feel like it. 

Because sometimes it’s in the very small act of just taking one step forward— entire new possibilities open. 

I can choose to see his passing as a reminder to live my life even MORE fully each and every day. 

To submit that article. To write that next book. To take time to be with those I love every day. To travel more. To practice speaking French more often. 

To say yes to that speaking event (shit, yes, I did) and to just start. 

I knew I wanted to reach out and write to you all—but I couldn’t find my voice. 

And then I just sat down and started writing, and the message was clear—just start.



p.s.  For those of you who work online quite a bit . . . I use these two apps to limit distractions/track time online when I am in work/create mode—Freedom, and RescueTime.  These apps keep you honest about how much time you are spending online, blocks certain websites and allows you to track and monitor exactly what you’re doing. Life-changers . . . if you like that sort of thing!