Being spiritual doesn’t mean you don’t get road rage, eat a donut or swear a little . . .

Being spiritual doesn’t mean you don’t get road rage, eat a donut or swear a little . . .

Just because someone knows how to say “namaste,” meditates and reads spiritual books—doesn’t mean we give them their ghandi badge and that they somehow radiate white light out of their crown chakra and never have a bad day again.

spiritmerkabahBeing spiritual doesn’t mean you don’t have shitty days, swear, digress and experience contrast or negative things in your life.  It doesn’t mean you don’t eat some junk food every now and then or maybe react in a less than stellar way to a challenging situation.

And actually, I feel the more committed you are to your growth and awareness, the more you will  be “gifted” opportunities to see just how good you are at it.

In other words, when you ask, it is given.  And there will be times when what is given to you are massive opportunities to grow into your next best self . . . and that isn’t always easy.

You will be asked to be patient, forgiving, to move out of your comfort zone, to react in different ways, to release old patterns of thought, to be more aware of your feelings and to consciously guide them, rather than having them run you.

And being on a spiritual path means being committed to growth, evolution and getting back on track, faster and with less struggle than the time before. It means getting back in the saddle a bit quicker and less effortlessly than the time before.

How I see it is that when I grow and reach a new “level” of mastery or growth in my life, and then I digress or do something out of alignment with my truth—it hurts a little more.

For example, I really want to be a person who, in each moment, strives to see the best in situations. I desire, quite simply, to be “in the loving” as one of my spiritual mentors says.  Does that mean I always nail it? Oh no, not always.  I swear, think bad thoughts, have judgments about people or situations and react in ways I am not always proud of.

But what I have noticed is that it almost physically hurts me when I do. It hurts to be unkind, judgmental, out of alignment with my truth and not in the loving.

It hurts now, whereas before, I didn’t notice it quite this intensely.

Why? Why would it hurt to be out of alignment, to not speak our truths or follow our path in life? Why does it feel so off when we get off track?

It hurts because when we ask to grow, to evolve and to the best version of ourselves–and then we step out of that and slide backwards—we get a gentle (or maybe not so gentle) reminder that we are off track.

Quite simply, if you truly strive to be on a path which leads you to your best life, your best self and a deep connection to God, Source, consciousness—whatever you choose to call it—it won’t feel good when you aren’t those things. It won’t feel good when you get off track.

It won’t feel good to go back to old ways of feeling, thinking and behaving.  Once you start to get a more clear picture of who you are and what you want—it won’t feel good to hide, digress and disallow the miracles to flow in your life.

We are all pure light and love, but we forget it.

Being on a spiritual path is really remembering the truth of who we are.  And so our feelings are a great indicator of how on or off track we are in life.

It’s not about beating ourselves up when we yell at the driver in front of us for not using their turn signal. It’s not about feeling intense guilt about reacting to someone in a toxic way.

It’s about listening to that feeling that comes up when we do get off track and choosing to do it differently next time.

That is growth. That is evolution. That is being spiritual.




Should You Hire a Coach or Mentor?

Absolutely!  Yes!  Oui!!

Having a coach or mentor is the best way to increase your results in any aspect of your life or business.

They can keep you accountable.

They can keep you on track.                     

They can teach you things you didn’t know about yourself.

They can help you see things that you can’t.

They can teach you how to do it right the first time.

They can help you grow into the best version of you.

Finding a good mentor or coach is critical when you are looking to step into a new place of passion + power in your life.

When looking for someone to coach or mentor with, consider these things:

  • What are your needs?
  • What exactly do you want to accomplish with this coach?
  • Be specific. The universe LOVES specifics. If you want specific back, be detailed and specific. If you want vague, be vague.
  • Create an exact list of tangible things you desire-more clients, a certain amount of money per month, branding, SEO, website stuff, time management or to get another perspective on your life + your business.
  • Create a list of intangible, spiritual or personal things you’d like to get out of a coaching or mentoring relationship-more confidence, greater connection to your truth, your purpose, healing old wounds and getting out of victim and/or excuse mode, more joy.
  • Do you enjoy their vibe? Their energy? What they write about, blog about?
  • If you are a “touchy feely “ person, try to go see them in person and see if it feels like there is an energetic match.
  • Meditate about it.
  • Ask God, or your higher power.
  • Listen to your gut and/or intuition.
  • Show me the money!  Find out what it costs, what you are willing to spend, them multiply that times two. Seriously. Investing in myself was the best thing I have ever done . . . but gotta find the right coach/mentor first.

I saved the money one for last because it is the biggest trigger for most people. 

 Here is the deal. If you invest in your self—and not just $100 an hour—but invest to that point that it challenges you. It feels like a bit of a stretch.

It challenges you for a reason. 

If you want to have a financial breakthroughs, then start by investing more than you normally would on yourself.  It’s called a breakthrough because it is a change, a stretch, growth and a new way of thinking.


Or, as Tina Fey says . . .                          tina-fey

I invested about six times what I felt comfortable with and I have the reaped the rewards time and time over. My ROI was worth it, and then some.

How would it feel to invest $5000 in your personal growth? $10,000? $100,000? What would you expect of  yourself? How would you utilize that time? Would you skip assignments or be late to coaching calls? 

Doubt it.

When you really, truly, 110%, black and white, no holding back commit to yourself, your dreams, your truth and your inner fire—it will show up.

When you ask, and line up your energy, magic happens, doors open, opportunities abound.

There are ways to really get dialed in with manifesting like a ninja master that can speed up that process. I can help with that. I am a manifesting coach and a real life manifesting success story.

Enough about me.

You. Get a coach(that’s not an order even thought it sounds bossy). Invest in you. Live your dreams.

Be super happy.  Choose you.

It’s like that.


Carrie Jolie Dale

 p.s. The picture above is my coach, Tara Marino and I at her event in San Diego.