Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise.
I bet if you’re human and breathing—you’ve run across another human that in all their authenticity—triggered you a little.
Or maybe a lot.
It’s ok. It doesn’t mean you’re horrible and lack compassion.
It also doesn’t mean that you’re wrong in feeling like that persons version of “authentic” would be better if it were, well—LESS authentic.
You hear it over and over again in the self help and personal growth world . . .
“Find your authentic self. Be your authentic self. Know your authentic self.”
But here is the issue with that—
Some people’s version of “authentic” may not seem very nice and may miss the boat when it comes to being self aware and open to change. And even if people do honestly feel they are being their 100% authentic self—you still may not line up with it.
And that’s ok too! You don’t have to agree with everyone—to be evolved or spiritual.
You don’t even have to like everyone to be evolved + spiritual (shhh . . . don’t tell the Dalai Lama)
In fact, it’s more spiritual to be honest about NOT feeling super jazzed about someone, than it is to pretend otherwise.
Because often in our acceptance of those feelings that don’t feel so evolved—is where the magic and growth take place.
On top of that—is the idea that what you resist persists. In other words, if you are truly bothered by something but pretending you aren’t bothered by it—it’s not going to go away, because you are “feeling stuffing” which is basically resistance.
And resistance, feeling stuffing and pretending you don’t feel something, that you do—is not an energy of allowing and attracting.
This matters because how we truly feel about things—is our vibration. And our vibration is what determines what flows back into our lives.
And you can’t change it, heal it or fix it if you aren’t being honest about it.
Many people think they are being authentic, when they really aren’t fully connected to how they feel about something and ultimately, to their vibration about it.
So what does it mean to be authentic in a conscious way? A way that isn’t self righteous, evasive or fake?
- owning your shit
- saying what you really mean
- standing up for what you really want
- being accountable (a nicer way of saying “owning your shit”)
- being committed to your growth
- being ok with making mistakes, but learning form them rather than repeating them for decades and then passing that energy on to your kids
- letting go of a need to be right
- being of service to brining more light and love to the world (I know, this is the super woo-woo one, but hey—I go there and that’s just me being authentically me 😉
- being conscious and self-aware
If a more “true” and less self-helpy meaning of authenticity is being an example of goodness, of light, of forgiveness and truth—then that’s a keeper.
But if it simply gets reduced to another woo-woo term that causes frustration or annoyance—then by all means—it’s time to drop it and move on.
The main point is to not let the word, teaching or concept get in the way of the main intention and goal.
And isn’t our ultimate goal simply to enjoy our lives? To laugh more, play more, travel more, love more, feel healthy, frisky and ALIVE?
Yes! Truthfully, authentically—